You can’t force relationships with friends
There are two types of friends in life: the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like nothing’s changed, and the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like everything’s changed.
What have been discovered over the time is that you can’t force a friendship with someone. Either it’s there or it’s not, and whatever it is, is so ephemeral and magical that neither one of you could even name it if you tried to. You both just know.
What I’ve also found is that you can rarely predict which friends will stick with you and which ones wont. Many of the people I was closest to when I left could hardly even be bothered to call me back when I returned. Yet, some of my more casual acquaintances slowly became the closest friends in my life. It’s not that those other people were bad people or bad friends. It’s nobody fault. It’s just life.
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The world doesn’t really care about you
The thought that is so frightening at first glance is to think No one cares about me!? . It becomes so liberating when one actually processes its true meaning. David Foster Wallace put it and I quote “You’ll stop worrying what others think about you when you realize how seldom they do.”
You, me, and everything we do, will one day be forgotten. It will be as if we never existed, even though we did. Nobody will care. Just like right now, almost nobody cares what you actually say or do with your life.
And this is actually really good news: it means you can get away with a lot of things and people will forget and forgive you for it. It means that there’s absolutely no reason to not be the person that you want to be. The pain of un-inhibiting yourself will be fleeting and the reward will last a lifetime.
Your parents are people you must give all respect
The most disillusioning realization of your 20s: seeing mom and dad not as the all-knowing protectors like you did as a child, and not as the obnoxious and totally uncool authoritarians like you did as a teenager, but as peers, as just two flawed, vulnerable, struggling people doing their best despite often not knowing what the hell they’re doing
Chances are your parents screwed some things up during your childhood. And chances are, you will start to notice all of these screw-ups while you are in your 20s. Growing up and maturing to the extent that one can recognize this is always a painful process. It can kick up a lot of bitterness and regret.
But perhaps the first duty of adulthood I mean the tru adulthood is the acknowledgment, acceptance, and forgiveness of one’s parent’s flaws. They’re people too. They’re doing their best, even though they don’t always know what the best is.
Take good care of yourself
The earlier you start managing your diet and beginning an exercise , the sooner you build the foundation for a healthy mind and body. According to a study by researchers, not only does exercise make our outlook on life more positive, it makes us more likely to engage in positive things , therefore have a better social life and achieve more. It helps prevent depression and manage anxiety. Not to mention it will help lower health care costs later in life.
Eat cleanly, invest in protein – rich foods such as fish , meet , egg. Avoid sugary drinks and beverage. It will help a lot for you fitness and make your body look healthy. Eat a lot of high-water content fruits such as oranges and watermelon.
Invest in good cloth , quality beat quantity everytime. Dress nice , apply nice cologne. Taking good care of yourself is an investment that will always benefits you and make you look great
